It’s the act of encouraging others that heals our own discouragement.
The secret underlying this process has to do with attention. When we are discouraged, all of our attention is on ourselves. “My life is so hard. I don’t have the strength. I’m disappointed and demoralized. I ‘m overwhelmed.” Our attention is glued to our own suffering.
If you think of your attention as kind of fertilizer, you realize that by focusing your attention on your own suffering you are actually helping it to grow and deepen its roots in your mind and body. But to encourage others, you have to shift your attention to the suffering of the other person. “How is their life hard? What is the nature of their difficulty” How can I support them?”
When you shift your attention to encouraging someone else, you have removed the nourishment for your own suffering. Where is your suffering when you’re not paying attention to it?”
— Gregg Krecht